time comes in your life when you finally get
it... when in the midst of all your fears and
insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and
somewhere the voice inside your head cries
Enough! Enough fighting and crying and
blaming and struggling to hold on. Then, like a
child quieting down after a tantrum,
back your tears and begin to look at the world
through new eyes. This is your
You realize it's time to stop hoping and
waiting for something to change, or for
happiness, safety and security to magically
appear over the next horizon.
You realize that in the real world there
aren't always fairy tale endings, and that any
guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin
and in the process a sense of peace
and calm is born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect
and that not everyone will always love,
appreciate or approve of who or what you
are.. and that's Ok. They are entitled to
their own views
and you learn the importance of
loving and championing yourself.. and in the
process a sense of new found confidence is born
You stop complaining and blaming other people
for the things they did to you-or didn't do to
you-and learn that the only thing you can
really count on is the unexpected.
You learn that people don't always say what
they mean or mean what they say and that not
everyone will always be there for you and that
everything isn't always about you.
So, you learn to stand on your own and to take
care of yourself. And in the process a sense of
safety and security is born of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers
begin to accept people as they are and to
overlook their shortcomings and human
frailties.. and in the process a sense of peace
and contentment is born of forgiveness.
You learn to open up to new worlds and different
points of view. You begin reassessing and
redefining who you are and what you really stand
You learn the difference between wanting and
needing and you begin to discard the doctrines
and values you've outgrown, or should never
have bought into to begin with.
You learn that there is power and glory in
creating and contributing and you stop
manoeuvring through life as a "Consumer"
looking for your next fix.
You learn that principles such as honesty and
integrity are not the outdated ideals of a
bygone era, but the mortar that holds together
the foundation upon which you must build a life.
You learn that you don't know everything,
it's not your job to save the world and that
you can't teach a Pig to sing.
You learn that
the only cross to bear is one you choose to
carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.
Then you learn about Love. You learn to look at
relationships as they really are and not as you
would have them be. You learn that alone does
not mean lonely.
You stop trying to control
people, situations and outcomes. You learn to
distinguish between guilt and responsibility and
the importance of setting boundaries
and learning to say No.
You also stop working hard at putting your
feelings aside, smoothing things over and
ignoring your needs. You learn that your body
really is a temple.
You begin to care for it and
treat it with respect. You begin to eat a
balanced diet, drink more water, and take more
time to exercise.
You learn that being tired fuels doubts, fear,
and uncertainty and so you take more time to
rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter
fuels our soul.
So you take more time to laugh
and to play. You learn that, for most part, you
get in life what you believe you deserve, and
that much of life truly is self-fulfilling
You learn that anything worth achieving is worth
working for and that wishing for something to
happen is different than working towards making
More importantly, you learn that in order to
achieve success you need direction, discipline
and perseverance. You also learn that no one can
do it all alone,
and that it's
Ok to risk
asking for help. You learn the only thing you must truly fear is
fear itself. You learn to step right into and
through your fears
because you know that
whatever happens you can handle it and to give
in to fear is to give away the right to live
life on your own terms.
You learn that life isn't always fair, you
don't always get what you think you deserve
and that sometimes, bad things happen to
unsuspecting, good people..
and you learn not
to always take it personally. You learn that
nobody's pushing you and everything isn't
always somebody's fault. It's just life
You learn to admit when you are wrong
and to build bridges instead of walls.
You learn that negative feelings such as anger,
envy and resentment must be understood and
redirected or they will suffocate the life out
of you and poison the universe that surrounds
You learn to be thankful and to take care
of many of the simple things we take for
granted, things that millions of people upon the
earth can only dream about.
Then you begin to take responsibility for
yourself by yourself and make yourself a promise
to never betray yourself and to never, ever
settle for less than your heart's desire.
make it a point to keep smiling, to keep
trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful
Finally with courage in your heart, you take a
stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to
design the life you want to live as best as you
Sheet of Life
Birth is our Opening Balance
Death is our Closing Balance
Prejudiced Views are our Liabilities
Creative Ideas are our Assets
is our Current Asset
are our General Reserves
& Behaviour are our Goodwill
is our Interest Earned
is our Dividend
is our Fixed Asset
is our Fixed Deposit
is our Current Account
are our Capital
& Morals, our Stock-in-Trade